Discover the psychology of sexual fantasies with Artemisia de Vine in this powerful episode of Everything is Personal. We explore why we have sexual fantasies, how they reveal more about our desires, and the deeper psychology of desire. Artemisia, a former dominatrix and expert in erotic psychology, explains the Diviner Method and why fantasies are not random or shameful — they are maps to intimacy, self-awareness, and human connection. From conscious kink to the spirituality of smut, we uncover how fantasies influence relationships, confidence, and pleasure. If you’ve ever asked: “What do my fantasies mean?” or wanted to understand the psychology of sex and intimacy, this conversation will open your mind.
Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome & Introduction
01:10 – What is “conscious kink”?
02:15 – Sexual fantasies as windows into the erotic psyche
04:00 – Lessons from sex work & roleplay
06:45 – Discovering deeper meaning in fantasies
09:30 – The three paradoxes of sex & desire
13:40 – Childhood, repression & the role of imagination
19:00 – Sexual fantasies as altered states of consciousness
23:00 – The “anglerfish” moment: when lust leads to transcendence
25:30 – Asking the right questions to decode fantasies
29:20 – Artemisia’s Diviner Method explained
33:00 – Can suppressed people safely explore fantasies?
35:40 – The Desire Compass: a step-by-step framework
38:20 – Talking with your partner about fantasies
43:20 – Beyond roleplay: building genuine intimacy
46:00 – Universal nature of fantasies across identity & culture
48:05 – Quickfire round: music, concerts & influences
51:40 – Childhood room & upbringing reflections
52:50 – Where to find Artemisia & her upcoming book